![]() There’s no right way to go about unburdening oneself of a secret, and when it comes to the consequences, every family is different, says Katy Barbier-Greenland, who studies family secrets as part of a PhD program based in sociology and psychology-Family Secrets, Secret Families. The truth, it’s often said, will set you free, but there are ways of allowing the truth to come to light without leaving you with-as the song goes-“nothin’ left to lose.” Being mindful of the potential repercussions and talking about them may help reduce collateral damage. Whether families will withstand the impact or crack may depend on how the family skeletons are let loose. But unshrouding long-hidden truths is likely to trigger a cascade of reactions, including guilt, anger, shame, and feelings of betrayal, among all the parties involved. ![]() Setting aside the issue of whose secret is it to tell and who has the right to open these hornets’ nests (we’ll get to that in another article), it may be in your best interest-in fact it may be essential to your well-being-to set the record straight. To not reveal your genetic identity may make you feel inauthentic or mired in a shame that isn’t yours. But because secrets pertaining to your origin story-to your truth-are fundamental and foundational, you may feel you have no choice. You may wrestle continually with whether to “come out” with your story knowing that in doing so, you will “out” someone else and there will be consequences. This is equally true if you’ve found that you’re a late-discovery adoptee or were donor conceived, the latter widening still further the ripple effect since the size of your biological family is potentially large and the revelations may be ongoing. It might even affect your relationships with your significant other and your children. If you’ve discovered, for example, that your mother has kept to herself the fact that you were conceived during a clandestine relationship, uncovering her affair is likely to trigger shock waves not only for you, but also for your social or birth-certificate father, your biological father, and all of their families. And with secrets related to genetic identity and origin stories, there may be many stakeholders and a ripple effect on many others individuals who might be deeply affected by the maintenance or divulgence of inconvenient truths. ![]() At the same time, stingrays are bottom feeders and feed large sea species like shrimps, crabs, etc.When family secrets are unveiled by DNA tests or otherwise revealed, the secret discoverers and the secret keepers are faced with thorny decisions about whether to come clean about their secrets or double down on them. Nutriment: Manta rays are filter feeders that feed on zooplankton like small fishes.But stingrays are the deadliest they have venom-filled body sacs which they use in self-defence. Toxin: Manta rays could be seen human-friendly as they are harmless and can be touched without getting hurt.Though manta rays are massive, they tend to swim near the coastlines, but stingrays being tiny and thin, choose to live under the water’s surface. Water dwelling: Devilfish are pelagic and prefer to stay above water levels, whereas stingrays prefer to dwell at the water’s surface.This is the most significant difference based on which you can tell the type of rays. On the order hand, stingrays have their mouth located underside of their body. ![]()
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